Working Women Mentor

What to Say When You Don't Know What to Say (And Why You've Been Afraid to Say It)

Episode Notes

You already know what it feels like the meeting where you said nothing when you should have spoken. The project you took on because you didn’t know how to say no. The slow, quiet erosion of your own needs in service of everyone else’s. You’re not weak. You’re wired this way. And there’s actually a way out.

Amy Green Smith is a corporate and executive communication coach who has spent two decades working with women who are having real breakdowns in the communication arena, not just what to say, but why they can’t seem to say it at all.

In this conversation, Rani and Amy get into:

• Why people-pleasing is a biological survival mechanism (not a character flaw), and why willpower alone will never fix it
• The difference between your organization’s structure and its dynamics, and what that gap tells you about whether it’s worth fighting to stay
• The “chronic complaint inventory”, the fastest way to identify exactly where you need to start setting boundaries
• Progressive language: why affirmations backfire, and what to say to yourself instead
• What it actually looks like to support someone without rescuing them in leadership, in friendship, in parenting

Amy also shares practical tools to help you begin changing these patterns, including her free resources available at Amy Green Smith's Free Resources.

This episode is for the woman who knows something needs to change, who has the words forming in her chest but can’t quite get them out and who is ready to stop outsourcing her worth to everyone else in the room.